So let's get real for a moment. Entrepreneurship can be freaking hard. There are a lot of parts involved and we need to stay focused and in our lane in order to build the success we want. But, while it can at times feel overwhelming, I believe that one of the most important ways to get through the challenges is by one simple (and yet, extremely complex) thing: having clarity.
Clarity can very much be the key to keeping you moving forward and becoming an actual success story.
I can tell you that for me, personally, it has absolutely been the case. What I have found, both from personal experience and from what I have seen from my clients, is that there are 3 fundamental questions you need to be able to answer if you are looking to build long-term success.
Ready for them?
question #1: what do you want?
Now, This might seem like a very obvious question to answer, but I beg to differ. I actually think that this is probably the #1 reason why people aren't where they think they want to be: they don't really know what they want! Here's the thing, it honestly starts with you getting clarity around what it is you are looking to build in your life.
Your definition of success should be yours, not someone else's. I believe we spend so much time trying to live the life that others set in place for us, and not do what we actually want to do. And changing that starts with you sitting down, taking a moment for yourself and asking: what is it that I really want? What is it that I actually desire?
And here's the thing, sometimes? The answer is super obvious. Sometimes you just simply know what your truth is. Like for my husband, her knows that what he wants is to sing at the Madison Square Garden, sold out, with everyone singing his songs. And he wakes up everyday with that vision and ready to do what it takes to turn it into a reality.
For me? The story hasn't been necessarily the same. Sure, I always wanted to have my own business and be able to be a mom and a successful entrepreneur at the same time, but I didn't have that precise sense of purpose that some people are simply born with. Life happened and it brought me to where I am right this very minute.
And while I don't know exactly what everything in my life is going to look like, I do know what type of life I want to experience every single day: I want peace of mind. I want freedom. I want to feel excited and motivated. I want Monday's to feel like the best thing that could happen to me. I want my life to be an adventure.
And everyday I ask myself: is this how I feel? And if it's too many days in a row answering "no," I know that I need to change something in my life. While the final destination might not be obvious, I know that I want it to be magnificent and big.
What this means for you: You want to ask yourself what you want your life to look like right now or in 10 years and start doing everything in your power to move a step closer to that vision and have the courage to make it happen.
question #2: why do you want it?
There's a reason why "find your why" is almost becoming a cliché. Simply put, we all need it. Here's another truth: the journey isn't going to be a straight line to success. There are going to be a lot of curves and a lot of ups and downs along the way.
And if you don't have your motivations in check, it's going to make it that much harder for you to stick with it. At the end of the day, your success is going to come down to your own level of commitment and that commitment will only come from you know why you want it so bad.
I look back to the last few years of my life, and I know that the reason I have been able to get to where I am is because no matter what has happened along the way, I have gotten up again and again. Has it always been smooth and easy? Nope. But no matter what I had the determination, the guts and the resilience to keep on going.
Think about every single story of success you have heard of, everyone of those people faced challenges, and it was their belief in themselves and for a better future that kept them going forward. You have to know what your true motivations are.
For me it started pretty simple, when we moved to the US, I didn't have a choice. I was the main breadwinner of my family and I needed to step up to the plate for us to have a life here. My motivations where about making money, paying the bills and moving forward. But, as I moved forward and dug deeper into what I wanted, I realized 2 things:
#1: I wanted to empower people and give them a voice. To give them the opportunity to transform their ideas, their vision and dreams into reality. To give them the tools to make an impact as well.
#2: My why was about changing the story for so many generations of women being in the shadows. I had seen it again and again in women in my family, friends and in our culture. It's all about the husband's career.
And hey, don't get me wrong, I LOVE my husband and I wish him massive success all the time, and while I live for his career, I also want to live for mine. So creating my own definition of success was truly important to me because I know that it's also changing the story for my children.
That's a damn powerful why to have.
What this means to you: You want to have that clarity within you. That conviction that you matter what, you HAVE to be successful, you have to make the answer to Question #1 a reality.
question #3: what’s stopping you?
So this last question is probably the hardest one to answer of the three, because it comes with you getting really honest with yourself.
What is stopping you from letting you achieve what you want? It can be so easy to blame external circumstances and say that they are the reason why you aren't where you want to be, or you aren't at least on your way there.
It's likely that the main reason why you aren't where you want to be is fear. You have some sort of belief or limitation around you achieving this amazing thing. You think you aren't ready yet, you don't deserve it, you need this thing or that thing in place before you can get results. Or maybe you are afraid of what that success could do to your life. Basically, you are letting your fears predict the future, and - I'm no fortune teller here, but I can tell you that it's highly unlikely that those fears will become a reality.
I know that it can get pretty darn scary - and in fact, if it wasn't scary, it probably means you are doing something wrong, because success is always going to be on the other side of fear.
Ultimately, it's about taking action, the smart action that is going to get you to cross the line. The intentional action that is going to allow you to live in your purpose. By the way, I talk a lot about how to take the right action for your business and do what it takes to build a business with more ease right here (you will seriously love this training).
I also created this pretty kickass guide with all the steps you need to know in order to build breakthroughs in your business
At the end of the day, it's your choice, you know? You can answer these questions as specific and narrow or as broad as you want.
You can say: I want $10k this month because I want to prove to myself that I can do it, and what's keeping me from getting there is that I'm not showing up in my business. Or you can say, I want to be a TEDtalk speaker, because I want to make a massive impact in the world and what's keeping me from getting there is my fear of public speaking.
However you want to take it, go for it. The important thing is that you take your time and answer these questions, I promise they will be a game changer for your business and will give you such an incredible perspective in your life.
Let me know how it goes!